You're Alone in a Room with 3 Men and Feel Completely Safe. Who are they?
And also the Man vs. Bear discussion
Few things stop me in my tracks.
Though my spirits have considerably risen lately, “disappointed but not surprised” could be used to describe my official mood for the past several years. Especially now that we’re in an election year.
I came across a meme on probably Facebook that was so convicting I had to stop the mindless scrolling.
“You’re alone in a room with 3 men and feel completely safe. Who are the men?”
I felt like a deer in the headlights. Stunned.
Then in the world of me, I start thinking Well are we talking a random Tuesday where maybe there was a severe weather event and coworkers accidently locked themselves inside a vault and help is on the way or are we talking a zombie apocalypse where all systems and protections have collapsed and everyone is quite literally on their own?
I know who I’d want on my team in either scenario but feeling completely safe? And on that same note, how old am I at the time this question is asked? 15 or 50?
This is how a critical overthinker lives.
But in response to the question, it has taken me most of the course of my life to be able to give two names. Not three. And they are people that didn’t come into my life in any real capacity until this past year.
There are plenty of people I think I can count on and a lot of people I know that would help me if I ever needed it, no questions asked.
But trust, my friend, is far too expensive at the moment. I don’t plan to stay here, but it’s where I’m at and I own that.
It reminds me of the Man vs. Bear discussion making the rounds on social media.
If you were a woman walking alone deep in the woods, would you rather stumble upon a random man or a bear?
For most women the answer is immediate without reservation. There’s a good chance if you come across a bear, the bear will leave you alone and if it doesn’t it will be a quick death.
A lot of women asked their husbands this question in regards to their daughters being alone in the woods. They are often taken aback when asked, and stammer to ask well which man?
But you don’t get to pick the man. And the hesitation is very telling.
There’s a chance the random man will leave you alone or offer help to save the day in his cape.
But it’s kind of like what it’s like out here in real life. You never know what you’re going to get, Forrest. Even if you do get to pick the man.
Looking back over my many years on this planet, I’m Team Bear.
But But But
Men’s responses to the discussions are a little predictable. Why wouldn’t you feel safe with us, we are protectors, good luck dying alone with 5 cats, yeah until your car breaks down, no one wants you anyway, death threat here, physical appearance insult there.
It’s like running face first into the point without even knowing it. Did you ever ask why and listen for the answer? Like really listen?
And Then There Was Two
The two give me pause. The two restore a little bit of light on a closed heart and help quell the rage. But it’s still there.
Healing is a marathon event.
A word of advice, if you are a male out deep in the woods on an innocent hike, hang back. You don’t have to say anything. Your body language can communicate you aren’t a threat.
Don’t take offense to a visible pew pew or bear spray at the ready on sight. It’s the world we’re in. It may not be your fault, but it’s the reality and we are ready to burn it all down.
Figuratively, of course.
Thanks for reading, I love talking to you.
Mood music for this post: Who Made Who by AC/DC, power song from Maximum Overdrive, 1986 (YouTube link)
Music referrals do not mean I endorse every lyric or action ever made by any particular artist. Music is a wonderful nostalgic healer.